Resource Library
In Your Pain Has a Name, Monica references an online library for you to read further on topics that interest you or name your pain. This library is also a place where you may be able to discover trusted resources on your own continued journey of finding names for your pain, and finding voices that reflect more of your unique experience.
for Your Pain Has A Name
Introduction
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What Happened to You? by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
The Song of Our Scars: The Untold Story of Pain by Haider Warraich
Mindsight by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.
Aware by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.
Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved by Kate Bowler
No Cure for Being Human: (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) by Kate Bowler
Good Enough: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection by Kate Bowler and Jessica Richie
The Lives We Actually Have by Kate Bowler and Jessica Richie
Strong Like Water by Aundi Kolber
Part 1: The Problem: Living With Unnamed Pain
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What Happened to You by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
Soul Shift by Rachel Macy Stafford
Emotional Inheritance by Galit Atlas
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Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
Soul Shift by Rachel Macy Stafford
Born For Love: Why Empathy is Essential—and Endangered by Maia Szalavitz and Bruce D. Perry
Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World by Vivek H. Murthy
Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman
Toward a Psychology of Awakening by John Welwood
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Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
The Wisdom of Your Body by Hilary McBride
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz
Lost Connections by Johann Hari
Burnout by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski
The Wisdom of Trauma (Documentary)
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
The Healing Power of Emotion by Diana Fosha, Daniel J. Siegel, & Marion Solomon
Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett
The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld
Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
This Here Flesh by Cole Arthur Riley
Soul Shift by Rachel Macy Stafford
Tell Me the Dream Again by Tasha Jun
The Voices We Carry by J.S. Park
Everybody Come Alive by Marcie Alvis-Walker
Living Resistance by Kaitlin B. Curtice
Homecoming by Dr. Thema Bryant
Remember Me Now by Faith Brooks
Part 2: The Quest
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Becoming Attached by Robert Karen
Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Adult Attachment Interview by Mary Main
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
The Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel
The Boy Who Raised a Dog by Bruce D. Perry & Maia Szalavitz
The Deepest Well by Nadine Burke Harris
Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell
Families and Forgiveness by Terry D. Hargrave & Nicole E. Zasowski
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My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. van der Kolk
What Happened to You? by Dr. Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey
Rethinking Trauma Treatment by Courtney Armstrong
Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
Strong Like Water: Finding the Freedom to Move in the Way Your Heart Was Made by Aundi Kolber
The Pocket Guide to The Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges
Polyvagal Safety by Stephen Porges
The Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges
Healing Trauma by Diana Fosha, Daniel J. Siegel, and Marion F. Solomon
The Wisdom of Your Body by Hilary McBride
Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant
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The best resource I have ever found for grief is Grief.com. Run by David Kessler, and his team, this website has free resources, book recommendations, groups, and more.
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler
Life Lessons by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler
On Grief and Grieving by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler
A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
Everything Happens for a Reason, and Other Lies I’ve Loved by Kate C. Bowler
No Cure for Being Human by Kate C. Bowler
Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg & Adam Grant
Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman
Permission to Feel by Mark Brackett
The Cure for Sorrow: A Book of Blessings for Times of Grief by Jan Richardson
We Don’t “Move on” From Grief, We Move Forward With It – TED Talk by Nora McInerny
It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine
The Voices We Carry by J.S. Park
Tell Me the Dream Again by Tasha Jun
Seasons of Waiting: 52 Devotions by Barb Hill
Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World by Vivek H. Murthy
Can You Just Sit With Me? by Natasha Smith
Families and Forgiveness by Terry D. Hargrave & Nicole E. Zasowski
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The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne
Unf#ck Your Brain by Faith G. Harper
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
The Feel Good Handbook by David Burns
Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy
Rewire Your Anxious Brain by Catherine M. Pittman & Elizabeth M. Karle
The Anxiety and Worry Workbook by David T. Clark & Aaron T. Beck
Restoration Therapy by Terry Hargrave & Franz Pfitzer
Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond by Judith S. Beck
Cognitive Therapy of Anxiety Disorders by David T. Clark & Aaron T. Beck
Five Days to a New Self by Terry Hargrave
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
Thriving With Anxiety by David H. Rosmarin
Anxiety RX by Dr. Russell Kennedy
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Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Safe People by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
The New Codependency by Melody Beattie
Drama Free by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook PhD & Kimberly Miller MTh LMFT
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Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved by Kate C. Bowler
No Cure for Being Human by Kate C. Bowler
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem
Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by Beverly Daniel Tatum
I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown
This Here Flesh by Cole Arthur Riley
Everybody Come Alive by Marcie Alvis-Walker
Tell Me the Dream Again by Tasha Jun
The Voices We Carry by J.S. Park
Native: Identity, Belonging, and Rediscovering God by Kaitlin B. Curtice
Homecoming by Dr. Thema Bryant
A Spring Within Us by Richard Rohr
Living Resistance: An Indigenous Vision for Seeking Wholeness Every Day by Kaitlin B. Curtice
Shoutin’ in the Fire by Danté Stewart
All God’s Children by Terence Lester
Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential—and Endangered by Maia Szalavitz & Bruce D. Perry
Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience by Sheila Wise Rowe
The Black Girl’s Guide to Healing Emotional Wounds by Nijiama Smalls
Dear Strong Black Woman by Jennifer Sterling
Remember Me Now by Faith Brooks
Easy Pain by Chloé Cooper Jones
Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World by Vivek H. Murthy
Reclaiming Body Trust by Hilary Kinavey & Dana Sturtevant
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Part 3: The Returning: You Are Not Your Pain
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Try Softer, Book and Workbook by Aundi Kolber
Life is in the Transitions by Bruce Feiler
Restoration Therapy by Terry Hargrave
Permission to Feel by Mark Brackett
Self Compassion by Kristin Neff
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
Soul Shift by Rachel Macy Stafford
You Are Only Just Beginning by Morgan Harper Nichols
All Along You Were Blooming by Morgan Harper Nichols
Peace is a Practice by Morgan Harper Nichols
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz
What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. Perry
The Developing Mind by Dan Siegel
Homecoming by Dr. Thema Bryant
Remember Me Now by Faith Brooks
Self Compassion by Kristin Neff Ph.D.
The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary L. McBride Ph.D.
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine and Ann Frederick
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